Masturbation

Recently I entered an online group that freely discusses sex. A woman posted that she had never had an orgasm while having sex. She went on to explain that she has never climaxed ever. I was one of many that asked her if she had ever had one while masturbating. Her reply was that she’s never masturbated. So, people this evening let’s discuss masturbation. Do you masturbate? How do you masturbate? Do you do it while watching porn or while you’re fantasizing? Do you do it alone or do you have someone watch? Do you use your hands or toys? Do you use your lover’s fingers for penetration while you use your fingers for clitoral stimulation? Which way tickles your fancy? There are several ways and each one achieves the goal of orgasm.

           I personally have several ways I like to masturbate. My partner and I are voyeurs, we like to watch each other masturbate. This has created a comfortable space for each of us. Self-pleasure in my relationship is not an indication that we don’t orgasm during sex. It isn’t about our inability to climax during sex, it’s about the freedom to express and achieve pleasure. As a woman I know that society has placed a stigma on masturbation for women. That’s society’s stigma, it doesn’t have to be yours. Women masturbate and we have some great toys to help us out. Self-pleasure is the safest sex that you can engage in.

I personally try to engage my lover in my masturbation. I like when he licks and suck on my breast. Maybe a little pinching and squeezing. This also help him get in the mood. If your lover is like my lover, the type that aims to please then he’ll watch and learn so he can please you.

     All in all, self-pleasure is the best way to learn your body. To learn what makes you feel good. What helps you achieve the ultimate orgasm. I didn’t forget my single ladies you often are masters of your own orgasm. You know what you like, how you’re going to do it, and if there will be any toys involved. I applaud you for all the ways you please yourselves. Stay safe!

Love Always,

Ngina